Do Filipinas put family before their husband?

Usually yes. Family typically comes first, and when you marry a Filipina you are often marrying her family too.

Will I need to support her family financially?

Often yes. The usual expectation when marrying a Filipina is that you help support her family, as there is very little social security in the Philippines.

Why are children so important in Filipino culture?

Children are primary assets who grow up, get jobs, and support their parents as they age. There is no government support like in the West.

Filipina Family Dynamics in Dating: What Western Men Should Expect

Understanding Filipina Family Dynamics

Filipina family dynamics play a central role in any serious relationship. Many Filipina scams on foreigners have been reported on social media in recent years as hundreds of foreigner-run YouTube channels, Facebook groups and online forums have started up.

But most Filipinas are good, honest, caring people who are mostly Catholic and want a traditional relationship, usually wanting to start a family.

Family comes before you

With most Filipinas, their family comes first, and it usually comes before you. The usual deal when you marry a Filipina is you have to help support her family.

There is very little social security in the Philippines, and they must have children. When the children grow up and get jobs, they give money to their parents and sometimes siblings if they are not working.

Children as assets

Some Filipino parents encourage their daughter or daughters to marry a foreigner as they believe all foreigners are wealthy, which means they can get more money from them to live a better life.

Children are their primary assets, unlike in the West and more developed countries where they usually leave home once they become adults. If they have not got a job, the government will support them with the dole in the West.

Western misunderstanding

A lot of Westerners do not understand this and look from their Western view eyes only, not being aware there is hardly any government support, plus also a lack of jobs for Filipinas, and even more so as they get older, as there is age discrimination regarding getting employed.

You will hear many Western guys saying how “stupid” Filipinas are for getting pregnant by some poor guy in the province only to be dumped by him. The Filipina usually does not care much about the guy leaving as long as she has a child or children who will grow up, get a job, and look after her as she ages.

Love is conditional everywhere

In most cases, she will put the children ahead of you, as you could leave her at any time and without income support, children are assets in the Philippines and quite often liabilities in the West.

Love between a man and woman is generally more blatantly conditional in the Philippines and developing countries than the West, where the government will look after you if need be, so it is easier to break up.

No money means no honey

If you are a broke guy, do not expect to find a serious partner in the Philippines or anywhere for that matter. No money equates to no honey universally for men, and unconditional love is a myth promoted by Hollywood and romance novels that people living in delusion falsely believe.

All relationships between men and women are transactional, and if you choose to get married a marriage certificate is really a business contract. Most of the time when you marry a Filipina you are marrying her family, as family is everything to most of them and the children are expected to support the parents eventually.

Understand expectations early

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